Are You Really Enjoying Your Twenties?

Late last year I took a real look at my website analytics and realized that the vast majority of my daily readers are women age 18-24. Women in their most defining years are checking into my website for advice on resumes, apartment decor and anecdotes that will make them feel just a tiny bit better about not having it all figured out. I think this is absolutely incredible.

In an age where we get so much conflicting information about relationships, what our goals should be and how fast we should be hitting major milestones, I'm happy that I can create a space online where there's no pressure to see the world, put a label on your relationship or get that promotion before you hit 25. Our twenties are the only time in our life when we can have nothing figured out and be totally on track, which is why I've spent the last few days thinking about whether or not I'm really enjoying being a twenty something.

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Don't get me wrong, I love my life, but having the world at my feet can be a bit overwhelming when all I want is a cute boy to text me he misses me and a box of pizza on my lap. My most recent break up taught me a lot about myself, mainly that I'm way too flexible when it comes to making other people happy. At a time when articles are telling me I need to be selfish and explore my options, my mind is telling me to focus on one guy, one career path, one Netflix series.

If you caught my post about my word for the year, you'll know that I'm focusing my energy this year on forming a community. Finding a group of people to uplift you can be hard though when were told we need to focus on ourselves at this point in our life. Except I think everyone has it wrong, who needs guidance, tons of second opinions and someone to sometimes just tell them what to do more than a confused twenty something??

Back to my question, I think this weekend I finally found the answer I was trying to avoid. No. I am not enjoying my twenties, at least not as much as I could be.

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This has nothing to do with the fact that I don't drink or go out often. My satisfaction really doesn't even have to do with my lack of friends in the city, though a good group of friends would help. Even when I was madly in love I wasn't enjoying my weekends to the fullest. Fun means something different to everyone, and I've finally come full circle to realize that my idea of fun is giving in to all those things I used to wish I could do. 

Eighteen year old me would have killed to be able to go to a concert on a Monday night. Too bad I was too young and too broke. Twenty year old me dreamed of packing a bag and flying somewhere for the weekend, but again, too broke. Now into the better part of my twenties, I have all the resources, yet lack the motivation. So along with my drive to perservere towards all my goals this year, I plan to also take the leap and just do all those fun things I always read about but never go out and experience. 

Not to sound selfish or preachy but 2016 will be the year of me. Starting with my blog, my needs for great local friends and my want to not just live for the weekend. And speaking of not living for the weekend, just this Monday I attended the Muse and X Renegades concert. It was incredible. Eighteen year old me would be very proud that not only did I have money for pretty stellar seats, but that I was able to stay out past 11 o'clock on a school night.

Are you a twenty something wondering if you're making the most of this decade? And if so, what are you doing to enjoy the moment more?


  1. I know what you mean and I totally agree with you! I spend so much time living for others, doing what other people want or think I should do, and my bf and I both agreed 2016 would be our year. this is the year we do what we want to do and actually enjoy our time. glad we're not alone in this sentiment. thanks for sharing your thoughts on this ♥ here's to us in 2016! :-*

    1. Yessss, people spend so much time doing things they arent even interested in, like me ALL last year. Good luck in 2016, I can already tell this year is gonna be amazing!

  2. Well, I'm in my 30s now, and let me just say, they are SO much better! Thank God I've grown since then.

    1. I feel like I've mentally been in my 30s since my teens, probably because I have a much older sister. But I believe you, our 30s just look so much more enjoyable at time

  3. I'm 2 years into my twenties and I'm loving and hating it. Not everything is perfect but that's why I love it. I think I put to much pressure in myself when I was a teenager so I'm not anymore. So the past 2 years has been amazing. 2016 has got a lot to compete with hehe.

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    1. yay, I'm so glad you are loving your twenties. My early twenties were great, then I graduated college and was like, noooo, take me back to being 21!


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