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10 Amazing Ways Getting a Pet Changes Your Life

Adopting Max was one of the best decisions I've made in my twenties. In my opinion, it totally cancels out the fact that I dated someone totally wrong for me and continuously drop too much money in the Target One Spot section. But anyways, making the choice to get a cat is what has made my cross country move possible. Without Max I don't think I could have handled all those nights without friends or months were my income didn't match my bills.

Apart from always having someone to have a joint costume with, having a pet comes with benefits no one really talks, probably about in an effort to not sound totally obsessed. The thing is, I know I'm a crazy cat lady, and I own every minute of it. My cat eats healthier than I ever could and I consistently know what he's going to be for Halloween before my own costume.

If you're thinking about adopting an animal read on to see all the amazing ways your life will change with the introduction of a little furry friend. Cat, dog or hamster, pets are honestly a twenty somethings' best option to learning how to grow up and love every minute of it.

1. You start spending less money on yourself.

While I'm not claiming that I don't spend money on myself anymore, I can say that currently my cat has a Halloween costume and I do not. Toys, carriers and collars suddenly are more tempting than purses and makeup, so yeah, you still spend money, but in a different category!

2. More attention is paid to the ingredients in the food you buy.

The number of hours I've spent researching what's inside my cat's dry food is embarrassing, but hey, I wan't him to live a long healthy life! You won't catch me reading the ingredients on my cereal but you bet I can name the first three ingredients in anything that goes into my cat's food bowl. 

3. Staying home on a weekend night doesn't sound so bad.

Before Max my Friday nights were spent trying to convince myself to go out then instanty regretting it once I was out. Nowadays a night in sounds much more enjoyable, especially since I have all the company I need curled up on my lap. Plus I can spare myself of being spilled a drink on.

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4. You're less lonely overall. 

Speaking of nights in, I seemed to do a lot of those my first few months in Washington DC. Having zero friends made it hard to push myself to get out of bed in the morning, but with Max, I at least had one reason to get moving. He was hungry and demanded to be fed. Adopting a pet will give you something to look forward to each day when you come home, and just maybe help your transition into a new environment.

5. Small moments become things worth celebrating. 

Okay maybe I was always this way, but at least now small celebrations aren't just me making a fuss out of seemingly nothing. Traditions don't have to exclude your pets, which is why every year Max steals my pumpkin carving tools and attacks the tree as a decorate it. I have friends who include pets in their holiday cards, so don't worry, there's a whole community of pet obsessed people.

6. You feel safer. 

Even though I know my cat can't protect me in the way a dog could, I can at least blame most of the bumps I hear in the night on him. Pets give you a sense of security, and if you're lucky, they can actually notify people if you;re in danger. I think a few days without me Snapchating my cat would give my friends the message that something had to be wrong.

7. Small talk is suddenly so much easier. 

No more talking about the weather or your commute! Almost everyone has a cat or dog, and if not, they most likely love animals anyways. Go with the safest topic possible by talking about something dumb your pet recently did, or better yet, whip out your camera roll full of adorable pictures.

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8. You become more responsible. 

Have I paid my taxes yet? Heck no! (But I'm planning to, I promise!) But you can bet I have enough cat food and litter to last me through winter, plus I make sure to never be away from home for too long anymore. Maybe I don't have absolutely everything figured out, but I definitely have changed my priorities since adopting Max.

9. You learn what unconditional love is. 

Everyone says your family is a source of unconditional love, which can be true I guess, but are you really feeling that love when your mom yells at you for not emptying the dishwasher? See, pets don't do things like that. You can forget to give them fresh water or buy the wrong kind of food and they just roll with it. And that to me is unconditional love, I mean, why else would my cat put up with finishing a whole bag of dog food before I noticed the difference?

10. You become more selective of who you spend your time with. 

Sure I wan't spending my time with drug dealers and scammer before getting a pet, but I was way more comfortable bringing people by knowing it was just me they'd be around. Apart from people who hate cats, which I strongly don't associate with, I'm much more careful about who I let into my home. I don't know when or why this happened, but it just did. My cat may not be my child, but I'm sure as hell going to come at you if you hurt a hair on his body.

So tell me, did adopting a pet change your life in any way? And if you're thinking about getting a pet, do you have any questions about life with a furry friend?

20 Inexpensive Fall Date Ideas

Ever since the start of my new relationship, my weekends have become a lot more...predictable. Unlike most new relationships, we spent months beforehand getting to know one another to the point where when we did meet, it's as if we had skipped over the awkward getting to know each other stage. This also means we quickly got comfortable with each other, too comfortable sometimes.

With my love for fall and his inexperience with all the city has to offer, I began researching for ways to enjoy our weekends without emptying our wallets. If you're in a relationship that needs something other than Netflix-and-stop-eating-so-much-of-my-popcorn, or if you're still into those early months of your relationships, this list has plenty of fall date ideas that will give you both something fun to do. Praying that during none of your dates he asks "what's the point of this?" If so, I stand by whatever choice in object you decide to throw towards him.

1. Visit a pumpkin patch.

An easy way for you to take some cute Instagram photos and enjoy all the events many pumpkin patches host on top of picking your own pumpkin. Much more fun than a trip to the grocery store to nab one.

2. Watch the most anticipated movie for fall.

With so many great movies, and shows, coming out each fall, find one you both are pumped for an make a night of it.

3. Go on a hike.

Enjoy the great outdoors while it's still nice enough to want to go outside. Even most large cities have a park worth trekking through.

4. Create your own food crawl.

If bar crawls aren't your thing, choose a food item you both love and make a pact to try it in various restaurants throughout your town. Options are donuts, pumpkin space lattes or ice cream. Literally any food will work, so choose your favorite and get to tasting!

5. Go apple picking.

If you're lucky enough to live near an orchard, apple picking is a fun option that gets you both outside and fed.

6. Carve pumpkins.

Remember that pumpkin patch idea? Well you can take that date night and turn it into a second one by carving your pumpkins.

7. Have a scary movie marathon.

Take turns choosing a Halloween movie and spend the weekend watching each other's favorite films. All you need is some snacks and your Netflix account.

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8. Make your favorite fall food from scratch.

Did you go apple picking? Well you can turn those apples into a pie, or apple sauce! If not, choose a recipe and attempt making it together. Even if it turns out terrible, it's a bonding experience. Kinda like building Ikea furniture.

9. Visit a haunted house.

For those couples that enjoy a good scare, haunted houses are a great choice that will give you plenty of funny moments to talk about the rest of the week.

10. Visit a corn maze.

For those couples that wanna take the haunted house date one step further, corn mazes are one of the creepiest, and most fun, things to do this time of year.

11. Have one last picnic.

I don't think picnics get the credit they deserve. Find a not too busy park and pack some easy to make food, or yummy takeout, and eat outside before your fingers feel like they're gonna freeze off.

12. Host a game night.

Who says date nights cant include your friends? Invite over other couples, or just a few mutual friends, and enjoy some pizza over your choice of board or card game.

13. Attend a state fair.

The best part of fall are all the state fairs that pop up! Find one near you and enjoy all the fair food your wallet can buy you.

14. Roast pumpkin seeds.

Remember that pumpkin you carved? Save those seeds and roast them!

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15. Go thrifting or to a flea market.

So it turns out guys don't mind visiting flea markets or thrift stores. My hypothesis is that they too love a good bargain, but whatever the reason, try it out. To make things more fun set a budget and see who can buy the best thing with the money they have.

Visit a local wine or beer fest.

Groupon has so many discounted entry tickets to wine and beerfests nationwide, but if that isn't your scene, try visiting a local brewery.

16. Visit a local wine or beer fest.

Groupon has so many discounted entry tickets to wine and beerfests nationwide, but if that isn't your scene, try visiting a local brewery.

17. Host a Halloween party.

Most twenty somethings still love Halloween, but many of us are in that in between stage where we wanna dress up but rather not go out to some overpriced bar. Save the day by hosting a party for your closest friends, nothing fancy. Think a few decorations, snacks, drinks and a costume contest!

18. Sign up for a ghost tour.

Many cities have local ghost tours. Do a little research to see if your town has one you can attend together.

19. Build a bonfire.

If you're lucky enough to have a fire pit, or live near a beach that allows them, build a bonfire to roast some marshmallows over.

20. Create a fall bucket list.

If you're a couple who likes to stay active, create a fall bucket list together so you never run out of date ideas. No more sitting around wondering what you should do tonight.

What's your favorite way to spend date night in the fall? Leave me your suggestions in the comments below!

10 Things That Happened the Day I Realized I Didn't Love You Anymore

Breakups are terrible, at every age. No one can truly warn you how hard it is to go from loving someone one day to having to imagine life without them the next. Forget having to let go of marriage and babies and all that crap, because if we're honest, that's not what makes you curl up on the floor and cry till you cant breathe. It's the small things. Having to carry your heavy grocery bags on your own again, not having that one person to text when something big or infinitely small happens, or having to constantly pass that one restaurant you both loved.

Breakups suck, so fucking much. They make you wanna call out of work and turn us into crazy stalkers. If you have friends you can vent to for weeks, be thankful. For those of us who have to bottle it all up cause rent ain't free and friends are far away, I feel ya.

Here's the thing though, it fades. The anger subsides and the pain comes and goes, but none of it is permanent. Eventually you stop talking about them, then you only stalk them once in a while, maybe one day you realize you went a whole week without thinking of them, until eventually you feel whole enough again to speak of them without a trace of sadness or bitterness in your mouth.

Except even once you've healed, the feelings sometimes linger behind. Yes, you can get over a breakup without letting go of your feelings in the process. In my experience that takes a litle bit longer. Maybe secretly we hold on because of a hope that it will all work out, even though it rarely does. Even feelings go away after some time, and that's when I think you're truly free to live your life once again without any of the baggage you clung to post breakup.

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1. I could go on social media and scroll without worry.

No more being jealous that you were out while I was at home or that you were having fun doing that one thing you never gave a chance when I recommended it.

2. Seeing photos and posts with you in them didn't completely alter my mood.

A moment of looking at your face didn't send me into a spiral of what went wrong, why I hated you or why I wished you would just go away forever.

3. I was no longer worried about running into you.

The first few months were a constant worry of running into you at all, then when I wasnt looking my best. Not I can confidently say I wouldn't give you a second glance.

4. I stopped thinking about what I would say if you ever walked up to me.

Sure, I always wondered what I would say if you approached me. Now I'm much more comfortable knowing I wouldn't even bother to give you a response.

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5. I finally admitted to myself that you were more bad than good.

No more making excuses, we ended for a reason, and I've finally healed enough to admit them to myself. 

6. I said to myself the one thing I promised to never throw in your face.

Every couple has that one thing that they never mention in a fight, no matter how angry they are. Well listen up ladies, once it's over, stop holding back the one thing you were always too kind to say out loud. Trust me, it feels so liberating. 

7. I didn't compare every guy I met to you.

The first date I went on post break up was odd, uncomfortable, and ended very quickly. You'll have a moment though where you don't compare every little move.

8. And if I did, you always came in last.

Okay sometimes you do compare little things, but when you do, you'll find you prefer the new guy's traits much more. 

9. I wasn't reminded of you everywhere I went.

No one talks about how freaking annoying it is to walk by the restaurant of your first date, or the spot of the first  place you kissed, day after day. This one takes a while of course, but it's good to walk down the street and not linger on the old memories. 

10. You no longer dominated my conversations.

The day my friends no longer needed to check in with how I was feeling was the day I knew I was finally moving on. You're not all we talk about anymore, and when we do, our talks are filled with laughter about how stupid it all was. Not all of it of course, but the end, the end was mighty dumb of me.

The Easiest Ways to Save Money That Will Feel Impossible at First

Not having a job is hard ya'll. Actually, scratch that. Waking up late every morning and not having to style my hair is easy. Not having money to spend aimlessly is the hard part.

If you caught my last post you might know that I recently quit my job in an effort to better focus on the reason I moved across the country. Adjusting to my new lifestyle has been a lot harder than I thought it would be though. As someone who values having a reason to wake up every morning, it's a little unmotivating when I don't have a clue of what I'm going to spend my day doing. Apart from class twice a week and the reoocuring assignments, my life is one long weekend now.

I've started writing more and sitting in bed less, but there's just one problem, money isn't coming in like it used to. Sure, I saved enough to keep me afloat for a while, but I can't help but feel guilty every time I spend money on something I don't absolutely need.

Here's the thing though, it's getting easier. Just like training yourself to wake up for work on time, you can train yourself to save money in ways you would have never even considered.

Buy groceries only at the grocery store.
Raise your hand if you've ever ran to the store for milk and come back with a new cardigan instead? *raises hand* That's because you're shopping in stores that are full of temptation! Quit going to places like Target for groceries and help yourself save money by bypassing all the distractions. Plus, they aren't really known for having the lowest prices anyways.

Uninstall Uber and Lyft.
This one is such a pain in the butt, or should I say feet(?), but can save you money right away. If you spent less time comparing pool prices and instead comparing your city's public transit apps, you'll see a notice in your bank balance immediately. Plus, without it conveniently being on your phone, you'll be less tempted to catch an Uber instead of the bus or subway.

Rent instead of buying.
Have you visited your local library lately? Cause they have seriously stepped up their game! You can find entire seasons of shows available to rent, plus all those books that you can finally take off your Amazon wish list. Libraries are free you guys, free! Why did we ever stop going?

Unsubscribe from everything. 
Okay, this one is hard. Especially since most of us probably don't even have cable. If you can't live without it, opt for one only! That means you shouldn't have Netflix, Hulu and Amazon Prime. Choose the one you use the most, and if possible, find a friend or family member to split the cost with. If you're amazing and can take the plunge of cancelling your plan, YouTube and network websites often play the same shows for free the day after they air.

Say goodbye to delivery.
Remember when I said all your food should come from the grocery store? Well someitmes boys are assholes and deadlines come faster than we anticipated. In these cases, if you're gonna order food it better be coming from a place you're gonna pick it up from. Save yourself the money of delivery and tips and walk to pick it up yourself.

Become best friends with generic items.
Say goodbye to name brands, for certain things! Your hands don't know the difference between hand soaps, and there's no way you even take out your trash often enough to need those fancy trashbags. Skimp on the everyday necessities that cost way more than they should.

Purchase a Sunday paper every once in a while.
Spending three dollars once a month can save you a ton of money for the rest of the month. You'd be surprised how many amazing coupons are included in the Sunday paper. I buy shampoo and conditioner every six months, and I don't think my total is ever over ten dollars. Seriously guys, buy the paper this weekend.

Just keep walking.
It can be so tempting to browse Target just because it's on my walk home, but unless I absolutely need something necessary like toilet paper or cat food, I just keep walking. You can't miss what you never even saw, so make it easier on yourself and don't go inside. The first few times will feel like torture, but the less you browse, the lower the likelihood you'll make impulse purchases. 

What's one way you help yourself save money ever month? Share your secrets in the comments below!

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