5 Things That Happen When You Start Online Dating

Unless you're one part of those unicorn couples that met in high school and managed to not hate each other my senior prom, you've probably tried online dating at least once. Whether you made a fake account just to check it out or are a self proclaimed Tinderalla, most of us have wondered if the possibility of love is worth the never ending influx of dick pics.

Here's the thing though, you can't fully understand online dating unless you've done it. Kinda like having kids or surviving a pap smear. As someone who went in totally clueless, I quickly learned the way navigate the world of online dating, until I eventually found someone who met my demands of pizza dinners every weekend and unconditional love to my cat.

If you're interested in learning what online dating is really like as a twenty something, keep ready to see what happened in my first few weeks of loving for love online.

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You have plans any day of the week

As a self proclaimed homebody, I was surprised to find myself going to art gallery openings and dinner dates on a Tuesday. If you're willing to put yourself out there, you'll most likely be out most nights of the week. It's easy if you choose to focus on one guy at a time, but if you're casually dating a few it can grow complicated very quickly.

You realize there's no such thing as a perfect match

Currently I'm dating someone who was a 93% match to me. Crazy right? From the first message he sent me I was convinced he was my long lost twin, the similarities were just too spooky. Fast forward to today and he bugs the hell out of me. Sure we have a lot in common. but that 7% must account for all the things we cant agree on like where to leave the toothpaste and whether La La Land deserves an Oscar.


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You will want to quit at least once

True story, less than twenty four hours after signing up I cancelled my account. It was just too much for me. Since you're new on the site or app, the system will promote your account more than others. This means you're gonna be bombarded with messages, with my first hour leaving me with at least 60 genuine messages from guys in my city. Don't give up, but also don't feel required to respond to everyone.

You think about your exes less

I'd be lying if I said that all the extra attention and weekend dates didn't make me think about ex boyfriends less. To be totally honest, I kinda slacked on calling my best friends as usual because I was so drained by the end of the day. Online dating will give you a whole new ocean of fish to sort through, and if you pick the rights ones, you won't even have the energy to think about past flames.

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Dating becomes fun again

All in all, I actually really enjoyed the whole process. I went out with only a handful of guys in the end, with each one being complete opposites from one another. As a girl who only ever dates people she knows, it was different to spend a day with a complete stranger. As long as you take your time and continue to prioritize yourself, the entire process should be fun until you find the one that makes you want to close down your account and wonder why you didn't respond to his message sooner.



Do you have any questions about online dating? If you wanna see a specific post, let me know in the comments below!


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